“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husband”…
This commandment from God was by far one of the hardest for me. I just didn’t understand it. Trev is an introvert. I am an extrovert. Despite differences in character, we had a beautiful marriage until it came to submission. “Why does he get to decide this? Why does he get to determine that. I make money too God. I should be able to do what I want”!
So as with all things, I prayed for understanding. More importantly, I prayed for help to be obedient to God & this beautiful man he blessed me with. I cried, fasted, and prayed to die out to my selfish mindset. God helped me! His word (this scripture) helped me. I wanted the benefits he said I would get from being submissive. Now almost eight years in, I adore my husband more than ever. Literally, couldn’t imagine making a decision without him. I’m so happy to serve him and meet his needs/wants! I’m eager to know what he thinks and what advice he has for me. Am I still learning? Yes! But there’s beauty in being obedient to God’s word even when you don’t understand it at the time. Not only was I pleasing God because I was being obedient to his word, but I began to see my husband glow a more. In marriage, we should desire to sacrifice our feelings to grow in the areas where God requires more.
In essence, marriage is a little like a good bowl of Louisiana gumbo. You have several different ingredients but when you put it together the right way (God’s way), you’ll always want more. Let me just tell you, I can not get enough of ‘my Mr’.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.